Quote
Love
A
unanimous writer once wrote “trying to
make someone fall in love with you is about as pointless as trying to control
who you fall in love with”. As I read
this quote repeatedly, it wrapped around my mind in what exactly it means and
what the point is and what is it trying to indicate in one’s mind.
In
my mind; this unanimous person trying to state that the importance of love and how we maneuver the scandalous emotion is
sometimes what drives someone insanely unpredictably unstably emotional. One may
say love is full of joy and tawdry sayings and doings like such but love itself
can be painful and bring a sense of downcast in ones emotions. Bring negative sentiments
to oneself esteem and even change how someone sets their ambiance in mood. What
it seems is this unanimous person is trying to specify two types of people;
someone who is going through unrequited love and someone who is denial of being
in love. Unrequited love is painful! To imagine to have the person you care for
sway you around their arms (or vice versa) and having someone to hold instead of
always holding a pillow or teddy bear
but then realizing that it was a delirious imagination once again. And then
seeing the person you dearly love walk away and seeing your imagination come
true but not with you but with someone else. Yeah, ouch that aches. But there’s
nothing we can do about it but get out of that delirium and see reality,
because trying to make someone fall in love with you is as pointless and uncontrollable
as when you first realized emotions bloomed for a person you thought as just a
friend, and then realizing you are just fighting those feelings away day by day
but at the end its uncontrollable! It’s just how life took its turn;
unpredictable. That’s why it’s pointless.
To
control oneself feelings is something but a dream, you see it happening but you
can’t do anything about it, it just happens. The emotion of oneself takes its
own stand and controls ones willpower. Makes that self-control helpless,
desperate and once again; unpredictable. But resisting against this quote and
fighting against it can really bring negative effects. Even though love can be
a sweet thing that causes much joy and laughter to oneself, but as I said
before it can be a thorn in one’s heart. For example my experience, oh how I
fell for someone during the summer, in my eyes; he was PERFECT, great attitude,
looks, personality overall! But then I realized as I began to drift apart from
those emotions not only did I realize that it was unrequited love but my
emotions never correlated with my brain. Everything that I thought was him, how
perfect he was, was just my emotions molding him that way. My emotions coloring
the picture of how I fantasied on a perfect person for a perfect relationship.
Yeah love can make you do and think foolish things. That’s what the point is! Love
is just an uncontrollable; we just have to deal with it.
That’s
what the short quote declares in details just with those short words! To love
somebody and to not have that love back just makes are emotions unbalanced! Just
as unbalanced as fighting emotions. Make us insane in a way, but to make us use
reality when it comes to someone who you might think is the perfect one and
someone who you don’t want to think it’s the perfect one. That’s why there is
no point to fight, no point to resist those feelings because at the end of the
day it’s as pointless as trying to make someone fall in love with you.
I agree with you when you say you cant make someone fall in love. I cant help but to think of those who are in arranged marriages. Those who are forced to marry someone who they didn’t choose themselves. Many times they stay together, not because they love each other but because its tradition. Yet there are those few who stay together because they do find love in that person that was chosen for them. For example I know a women that was in an arranged marriage and she has been happily married for many years.
ReplyDeleteAmazing post! It overall states what love is. But in a sense do we really know what “love” is? After all we are only teens. I think it is difficult to tell what love is in today’s society where people overuse the term and just go around saying “ily” all the time or with no real meaning. But I do think you have a point to which you said “emotions molding it that way” because after you start seeing people fall out of “love” they start questioning what they saw in the other person and as you said, it takes the persons faults and makes them disappear.
ReplyDeleteYou can't control who you fall in love with, and you certainly can't control who someone else falls in love with. You love who you love and ultimately, you can't decide what to do with your feelings. Sometimes they fade with time, sometimes they only burn stronger. But that's just it - time. We can't will these feelings away in the same way we can't persuade someone to feel a certain way about us. It hurts, it really does, but there isn't much to be done about it. We can, however, learn to cope. Maybe we can't make the feelings disappear entirely, but we can learn to accept them, even if they are unrequited. And it might not be the ending we were hoping for, but it is enough to help us heal and, eventually, continue to live life with our heads held high.
ReplyDeleteI agree this quote! Love is crazy and uncontrollable. Most people these days claim to say they are in love but do they really know what " love" is? Falling in love with someone is just something people can't control. You are right our emotions can help mold how you view a person, especially someone you love. Your emotions are tricky and can blind you to what the truth really is. That's when we as humans have to step back and recapitulate on the situation. Reflection and check if we are truly in love or if it's our emotions that's fooling us. Love the very word that gives of many connotations but negative and positive.
ReplyDeleteI agree with you this quote,love does play with our emotions and falling for someone that doesn't love you back is even worse because it causes us to do crazy things. It is true we cannot control who falls in love with us or who we fall in love with, all we can do is try to deal with it and attempt to control our emotions although it may be hard to. Although I'm sure some of us wish we could make the person we love fall in love with us we can't, as heartbreaking this is to us, that's just the way it is. All we can do in the end is move on and wait to find that one person for us, that we love and will also love us back.
ReplyDeleteI completely agree with this quote, since we don't and can't ever choose who people fall in love with and who we fall in love with. The way we feel about a person is more or less uncontrollable, because love is a mysterious and unpredictable thing in this world. There's no real definition for the word 'love' either, because it has so many different forms and is just a way to label the feelings we may have towards people. But, whether our love be unrequited or mutual, all we can ever ask for in life is to be able to just keep moving along.
ReplyDeleteAs I read this post, I felt as if the words were taken right out of me. Love is so strong, the desire for another person and having to tame that emotion is painful. It's just as painful when the other person doesn't feel the same way and having to accept the fact that it can never be. But at the end, we move on with our lives and learn to accept other peoples decisions because their is no point of forcing love onto someone
ReplyDeletedude this is so true, but i have to disagree, just a little. (only because it's you, kelly). when someone is in love with someone who doesn't love them back that way, there's a point in fighting it, because you never know how the things you do are going to affect the person you're trying to make fall in love with you. but using the word "make" makes the situation nasty and forced, but you're not pointing a gun to their head and saying "love me or else". if you truly love someone who doesnt love you back, you wouldnt wanna hurt them but you'd never give up fighting, because if it's them you're destined to be with, than it's worth the wait and the battle.
ReplyDeleteBut thats the thing, if two people are not destined to be then theres no point fighting it, its just how the cookie crumples, its life. Im not saying to not give it a good fight because thats what the emotions tend to make you do, fight for who we think is the "one" for us...At the end of the day this quote was basically for those who are in denial and are not able to accept that who they are in love with is not meant for them, though love is not controllable, heartbreak is duable.
DeleteI believe this quote to be true. If someone truly liked someone else the way they say they do they shuden't have to change. When i say change yourself im applying to the first part of the quote "Trying to make someone fall in love with you". When someone falls for someone else they tend to do things out of their way to hold onto them. Thats okay but there is a limit as to how far u should go. As for the second part "Is as pointless as trying to control who you fall in love with", believe it or not i don't believe we pick who we fall in lvoe with it just clicks to us individuals.
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